“when they show you, believe them.”… But which time?

I’m confused.

I can never really tell where the end of grace and the beginning of doormat exist. See, people are often heard saying the phrase, “when they show you who they are, believe them”, right? Or, “if they wanted to, they would.”

Okay, but at the same time no one is perfect, as we know. I never feel right about walking away without giving a person information and an opportunity to speak their piece.

So, when are we supposed to pull the plug? When are we supposed to cut the cord?

I keep saying things without nuance. Directly appealing to everyone involved.

No one cares about the root, they only care that I bring attention to it.

When they show you who they are, believe them.

When they show you what they value, believe them.

When they show you who they align with, believe them.

I guess if people were going to behave like adults they would have by now.

I guess it’s time for me to believe them.